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Old 23/08/2010, 10:08 PM
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Talking Compliments vs. Criticism

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Well I have a topic that we can all discuss about

Compliments vs. criticism

Well I think its all clear

To compliment is to admire or praise

And to criticize is the opposite of compliment


Now lets discuss how often do we complement or criticize and why?

More important how do we do it?

And how do we react towards complements and criticism?

Well I can put many questions here to discuss but im sure that those questions will come up in the discussion it self

So lets see what you all think and how you look at it
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Hi there ..

Well, I guess we all have both actions of compliments and criticism..
We tend to do both based on people's reactions or how would they accept them.
Most people love compliments and they barely can't live without being complimented !
Though, compliments are great and do raise self esteem , there is criticism which I think most people aren't that much into it and they are floating in the surface of its notion !!
If compliments are good to straighten people's deviating behaviors then I feel criticism is the same as long as it is not spirit's crushing machine!
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Hey Life Storm

Well i do agree with you

I think it’s easy to give compliments, however criticizing needs talent

Lol

I mean we should not over do it
We should criticize as we would want to be criticized
And not over do it or make the other person feel down coz of it

Our aim is to improve not to put down
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Good Morning Everyone.
Ramadan Kareem.

It's very nice topic, and it's good to enrich our knowledge in life.

Compliments & Criticize are contradicted words but they are techniques should be employed well by a person. As Life Storm” above said both can do differences in person’s behavior, feelings and actions. They can raise self-esteem or make it down or straighten the person’s behavior or make it worse. Though, as forever gone said, not everyone good in criticizing, but most people can compliments no talent required as Criticism.
Besides, you are able to use them at the same time, you make the compliment then you follow it with criticize in a good way.
Sometimes you don’t know how to start in criticizing start it with compliment, it would be more accepted, and in my point it has more affect than with direct criticism.

I’ll let your talented pens to continue this discussion.
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I am honoured

Hope your well

About the subject
I agree with you, a complement first followed by criticize in a point does sooth the air


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Honor is mine Sister.

I know it's long time, but that's life, busy, taking care of other things.
Priorities
Besides,, I am learning from you <<< That's a compliment.. but true..

Some just do fake compliment and there's true compliments which means, it's on its right place.
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Honor is mine Sister.

I know it's long time, but that's life, busy, taking care of other things.
Priorities
Besides,, I am learning from you <<< That's a compliment.. but true..

Some just do fake compliment and there's true compliments which means, it's on its right place.

no brother the honor is all mine

and i thank you for your sweet words

about the compliment, its true some do it for the wrong reason
but when its done for the right reasons the out come should be great

miss the old grup here
i hope that one day they will all come back

all the best with life dear brother

and lets see you around from time to time
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I'd like to add something, it's kind of a proverb.
" When you're criticizing someone, look into with a honey bee's eye not with a fly's eye"

try my friends, to get the point of this proverb...

All the best..
Have a good time..
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Hi nice people "compliment" XD

I agree with you guys praise then criticize =P ( if criticism is needed)
It's always nice to throw compliments, draw smiles in others' faces XD
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salam to all

the 2 C

when the mood is up people usually use C # 1 compli. when the they got bad temper they tend to use the C # 2 crit. right :كاشخ
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Hi nice people "compliment" XD

I agree with you guys praise then criticize =P ( if criticism is needed)
It's always nice to throw compliments, draw smiles in others' faces XD
hey there good person

well i agree its nice to be good and make poeple happy as long as it does no harm


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salam to all

the 2 C

when the mood is up people usually use C # 1 compli. when the they got bad temper they tend to use the C # 2 crit. right :كاشخ
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wa 3alikum elsalam

well maybe to some

as for me i tend to avoid nuber 2 just coz some poeple dont take it well

but to the people i care about and love i give them both when needed
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Hey there everyone,
in my point of view, compliment is an essential skill in people's relationship.
However, we should not exaggerate using it because it loses its purpose one people get used to hear it from the same person over and over.
Criticism ,on the other hand, has a stronger effect in some situations. Personally, I don't criticise someone's actions unless I know him very well. I think we should have the ability of criticising because it helps improving our way of thinking and judging ,but obviously we should not overuse it.
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I'd like to add something, it's kind of a proverb.
" When you're criticizing someone, look into with a honey bee's eye not with a fly's eye"

try my friends, to get the point of this proverb...

All the best..
Have a good time..
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that what you meant

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So "compliment" vs " criticizm"
I really don't have much to say but
yesterday I was watching my fav program
"حجر الزاوية" and Sheikha Salman Al- Awda said sth
regarding the topic:
"In criticizm, try to criticize the idea not the person"
And when you think abt it, he makes sense...
ppl may not like the fact that they are criticized
so criticizing the idea is better in
many ways_

Thanx dear for the discussion here ^_^
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So "compliment" vs " criticizm"
I really don't have much to say but
yesterday I was watching my fav program
"حجر الزاوية" and Sheikha Salman Al- Awda said sth
regarding the topic:
"In criticizm, try to criticize the idea not the person"
And when you think abt it, he makes sense...
ppl may not like the fact that they are criticized
so criticizing the idea is better in
many ways_

Thanx dear for the discussion here ^_^
hummm

yes you are right

i think i should do that

people can take that more
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criticize people i care about more than i complement..
complement people i dont care a lot about more than i criticize..
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Salam,

forever gone ,Thanx for such interesting topic

For me,
I believe that Criticism can be considered positive when it helps in pointing out faults which can then be corrected for a better outcome the next time. This can lead to serious improvements in one’s performance. While negative criticism is where something is particularly criticized for the purpose of demoting

It is as Samuel Johnson said :
Criticism can be considered to be a serious examination and judgment of something or it could be disapproval expressed by pointing out faults or shortcomings”

So it’s good to criticize your peers so that they are motivated to perform better the next time

He has the right to criticize who has the heart to help.”
Abraham Lincoln

By the way, we have to be honest when we criticize others because >>
It is much easier to be critical than to be correct.”
Benjamin Disraeli

Besides, we should be aware of what we criticize people for and don’t criticize someone passed on what we like or dislike. Be logical

Be aware of those whom you criticize

Never criticize a man until you've walked a mile in his moccasins.”

Anyway, I strongly believe in the importance of criticism

Donald H. Rumsfeld said:


If you are not criticized, you may not be doing much.”
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Salam,

forever gone ,Thanx for such interesting topic

For me,
I believe that Criticism can be considered positive when it helps in pointing out faults which can then be corrected for a better outcome the next time. This can lead to serious improvements in one’s performance. While negative criticism is where something is particularly criticized for the purpose of demoting

It is as Samuel Johnson said :
Criticism can be considered to be a serious examination and judgment of something or it could be disapproval expressed by pointing out faults or shortcomings”

So it’s good to criticize your peers so that they are motivated to perform better the next time

He has the right to criticize who has the heart to help.”
Abraham Lincoln

By the way, we have to be honest when we criticize others because >>
It is much easier to be critical than to be correct.”
Benjamin Disraeli

Besides, we should be aware of what we criticize people for and don’t criticize someone passed on what we like or dislike. Be logical

Be aware of those whom you criticize

Never criticize a man until you've walked a mile in his moccasins.”

Anyway, I strongly believe in the importance of criticism

Donald H. Rumsfeld said:


If you are not criticized, you may not be doing much.”



Well I agree on the last one big time

The more you do

The more people see what you do

The more criticism you well get

So when that happen know that you are doing good

Lol

Or so I think


thanks brother for your comment
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On an individual level



I've no problem when people critical me, contrarily, the more you critical me the more I'm cooler

even if I'm sure that i have a nothing to critical & and I'm 100% good

I don't get upset from criticizing

cause criticizing me in such situation means that I'm the superior

and as the Arabic saying say:j

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On an individual level



I've no problem when people critical me, contrarily, the more you critical me the more I'm cooler

even if I'm sure that i have a nothing to critical & and I'm 100% good

I don't get upset from criticizing

cause criticizing me in such situation means that I'm the superior

and as the Arabic saying say:j

لا ترمرى الا الشجرة المثمرة
and also

إن أتتك ملامتي من ناقص فتلك شهادة بأنني كامل

Thank you, dear princess
nice answer

and true

again when some one talks about you that only means that you are doing something



i like the Princess part
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Good eve all

Well I have a topic that we can all discuss about

Compliments vs. criticism

Well I think its all clear

To compliment is to admire or praise

And to criticize is the opposite of compliment


Now lets discuss how often do we complement or criticize and why?

More important how do we do it?

And how do we react towards complements and criticism?

Well I can put many questions here to discuss but im sure that those questions will come up in the discussion it self

So lets see what you all think and how you look at it
For me i don't like complements i would rather get Constructive Criticism. Constructive Criticism: Refers to a type of criticism that attempts to reveal potential points for growth in another person without making them defensive about the things being criticized. In other words, this is criticism that attempts to help the person improve himself or something he has created, provided he is receptive to it.

In the other hand i don't like Crafting constructive criticism on the internet is usually very difficult because you don’t know and can’t see signs of the other person’s reception towards what you are writing. Thus, you don’t know if the other person is getting annoyed, or is finding your criticism useful. I do not know how the beta test people are doing over on their own beta forums, but I’m assuming that there are as many useful threads as there are unhelpful ones.


N.B by the way who is Elivra ???
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I think we all agree that criticizm is not as welcomed as compliments .
However, there are many ways to deliver criticizm, it's all up to the communication skills one has.
Personally, I never give out criticizm without starting with the compliments. I think it is always good to mention the positive points first and then head to the negative points. It shouldn't be too harsh though because that would make it turn into a destructive criticizm rather than a constructive one!
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و إذا أتتك مذمتي من ناقص *** فهي الشهادة لي بأنيّ كامل
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Good morning ,, Boss

get straight in to the point,,
Compliment or praising drops in to the same path
it's always positive,,,

now criticism or criticizing
can go both ways,
it's whether you positively or negatively criticize the situation/person

we have something called constructive criticism
which you are trying to analyze the situation and give
your own experienced thoughts/ideas
but in a way you are trying to build up and correct the situation..
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there is a big difference between Critique and Criticism.
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